Hey guys, Welcome to day 9 of choosing me- Emotions
I think emotions are something we all struggle to understand. They’re confusing, inconsistent, and sometimes feel impossible to read. Half the time it’s like trying to read code — you know there’s meaning there, but you’re not quite sure what it’s saying yet.
Below is how emotions looks in my head when I’m trying to decode and understand why I feel the way I do emotion == “low” or emotion == “upset”:
pause()
ask(“What are you trying to tell me?”)
reflect()
learn()
For the longest time, I personally linked feeling down, upset, or emotional with being bad. Like something was wrong with me. Like I needed to fix it, hide it, or push through it as quickly as possible.
But since being on this journey, everything has shifted.
Now, when an emotion shows up, I question it — not in a harsh way, but in a curious one. Living with anxiety and learning how to understand it, rather than letting it control me in a crippling way, has changed how I see myself. Instead of fighting what I feel, I’ve started asking why — why this emotion, why now, what’s being triggered, and what part of me is asking to be seen. Anxiety, for me, became an invitation to understand myself more deeply. And somehow, this all comes with no instruction manual. No quick-start guide, no FAQs, no customer support — just feelings and a lot of figuring it out.
Emotions don’t just appear out of nowhere. They come from somewhere deeper. From experiences. From thoughts we haven’t voiced yet. From our subconscious trying to get our attention.
So instead of assuming an emotion is bad, I try to listen.
If I feel low, I ask what needs rest or care.
If I feel upset, I ask where a boundary might be missing.
If something feels heavy, I wonder what I’ve been carrying quietly.
It’s like my subconscious finally saying, “Hey — can we talk about this?”
And honestly, that shift has changed everything. Emotions stopped being something to fight and started becoming something to learn from. They became messages instead of enemies.
Not every emotion needs an immediate solution.
Some just need to be acknowledged.
And the more I listen, the clearer the pattern becomes.
Emotions aren’t random.
They’re information.
Joy lights you up.
Fear tells you something matters.
Anger draws boundaries.
Sadness slows you down so you can heal.
Excitement pulls you forward.
Anxiety tries to keep you safe
When you slow down enough to hear them, they guide you — toward growth, healing, clarity, and better choices. They don’t block the journey. They shape it.
So if emotions feel confusing right now, that confusion is simply the start of a conversation with yourself.
Let me leave this with you: Feel your emotions. Learn them. Use them. That’s how we grow. That’s how we build.
That’s how we stand together — and help others rise too.
Love Shana xx